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WEDNESDAY, APRIL 26, 2023 | 9:00AM

Show Notes

Are you curious about the secrets to a happy, long-lasting relationship? Then join us on The D Spot Podcast where we delve into The Gottman Method with your host Dr. Dana McNeil, Founder of The Relationship Place, and special guest Dr. Carrie Cole, The Director of Research at The Gottman Insitute. Discover the origin story of this evidence-based couple’s therapy and learn how it can help improve communication and intimacy in your own relationships. From understanding the Gottman method framework to practical tips and insights, this episode has it all. So grab your headphones and join us for an enlightening discussion that might just change the way you view love and relationship therapy. Don’t forget to hit the like button and subscribe for more amazing podcasts like this one!

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key moments

00:43 Meet Dr. Carrie Cole
01:01 Dr. Carrie Cole, Director of Research at The Gottman Institute.
02:31 What is The Gottman Method?
02:55 John Gottman
05:32 “If it weren’t for Julie Gottman, we probably would have never heard of John Gottman.”
06:33 The Birth of The Gottman Method
07:22 Three Systems Needed to be Healthy in Relationships
08:12 The Four Horseman | Communication Patterns That Kill Relationships
13:40 The Antidotes
18:18 Gaslighting
21:02 We’re Not Expressing How We Really Feel
21:59 The Gottman Method Helps Couples Have Those Difficult Conversations
23:41 Stress, Heart Rates, Logic, Frontal Lobes, and Communication
26:20 Flooded
27:13 The Break Ritual
29:02 Rules of Re-Engagement
31:20 The Aftermath of a Fight
33:18 “You Can’t Just Sweep it Under the Rug Anymore…”
34:23 Knowing Your Partner
35:29 We Need to be Protective of Our Partner’s Vulnerabilities
36:05 MInimizing The Stigma Around Couple’s Therapy
38:43 A Good Therapist. is One That Helps Facilitate Conversation
40:27 The Average Couple Waits Six Years to Go to Couple’s Therapy
41:33 Do You Think Covid is Influencing That?
43:05 Why Should I Pick up the Phone and Call a Certified Gottman Therapist
44:47 It’s Our Job to Help Couples Have Better, More Connected, Loving Relationships

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Dr. Dana McNeil

PsyD, LMFT

Dr. Carrie Cole

Director of Research
The Gottman Institute

Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We would like to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.