00:43 Meet Dr. Carrie Cole
01:01 Dr. Carrie Cole, Director of Research at The Gottman Institute.
02:31 What is The Gottman Method?
02:55 John Gottman
05:32 “If it weren’t for Julie Gottman, we probably would have never heard of John Gottman.”
06:33 The Birth of The Gottman Method
07:22 Three Systems Needed to be Healthy in Relationships
08:12 The Four Horseman | Communication Patterns That Kill Relationships
13:40 The Antidotes
18:18 Gaslighting
21:02 We’re Not Expressing How We Really Feel
21:59 The Gottman Method Helps Couples Have Those Difficult Conversations
23:41 Stress, Heart Rates, Logic, Frontal Lobes, and Communication
26:20 Flooded
27:13 The Break Ritual
29:02 Rules of Re-Engagement
31:20 The Aftermath of a Fight
33:18 “You Can’t Just Sweep it Under the Rug Anymore…”
34:23 Knowing Your Partner
35:29 We Need to be Protective of Our Partner’s Vulnerabilities
36:05 MInimizing The Stigma Around Couple’s Therapy
38:43 A Good Therapist. is One That Helps Facilitate Conversation
40:27 The Average Couple Waits Six Years to Go to Couple’s Therapy
41:33 Do You Think Covid is Influencing That?
43:05 Why Should I Pick up the Phone and Call a Certified Gottman Therapist
44:47 It’s Our Job to Help Couples Have Better, More Connected, Loving Relationships